Navigating Special Days and Anniversaries

Special days and anniversaries can be particularly challenging after losing a spouse. Birthdays, holidays, dates when your spouse died, or special occasions can be extremely difficult, because grief will come back for a visit. These times often bring a renewed sense of loss and sadness. You remember. You cry. You feel the loss and you feel helpless. Plan ahead for these days by thinking about how you might want to spend them. Some find comfort in continuing traditions, while others prefer to create new ones. It’s also okay to change your mind and do something entirely different if that feels right. Surround yourself with supportive people who understand your grief. Allow yourself to feel the emotions that come up and honor your spouse in a way that feels meaningful to you.