The Myth of Being ‘Strong’: What True Strength Looks Like in Grief

In the face of loss, you’ve probably heard it more times than you can count: “Be strong.” It’s often well-meaning advice, offered by those who don’t know what else to say. But what does “being strong” really mean? Does it mean holding back your tears? Pretending you’re okay when you’re not? Shouldering the pain alone?

True strength, especially in grief, looks very different from what the world tells us.

Strength in grief isn’t about holding it all together. It’s about allowing yourself to feel deeply, even when it hurts. It’s about letting yourself cry when the weight of loss becomes too much. It’s about being honest with yourself and others about the emotions that bubble up unexpectedly.

Pretending to be strong—hiding your pain behind a mask—may feel like the right thing to do, but it can leave you feeling even more isolated. True strength is found in vulnerability. It’s found in reaching out for support, in saying, “I need help,” and in allowing yourself to be cared for by others.

You don’t have to carry this alone. A grief companion can help you redefine what strength looks like in this season of life. They can remind you that showing your emotions is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of courage.

Strength in grief is not about pretending to be okay. It’s about embracing your humanity and letting others walk alongside you in the pain. If you’re ready to explore what true strength looks like, I’m here to help. Together, we can face this journey with honesty and grace.