When Silence Becomes Too Heavy to Carry

Grief is a strange thing. It wraps itself around your heart in a way that feels both crushing and invisible. To the outside world, everything may seem fine—you smile, nod, and go through the motions of your day. But inside, there’s a weight that no one else can see. And because no one else can see it, you might feel the need to carry it all alone. After all, who could possibly understand the depth of your loss?

But here’s the thing: silence is heavy. Heavier than most of us realize.

When you lose someone you love, the instinct to stay quiet often comes from a place of protection. You don’t want to burden others with your pain. Maybe you’ve heard people say things like, “Be strong.” Or maybe you’ve tried opening up before, only to be met with awkward silences or well-meaning but unhelpful platitudes like, “They’re in a better place.”

So, you retreat into silence. It feels safer there, at least for a while. But over time, the silence begins to weigh on you. The words you don’t say build up inside, like water behind a dam. The unspoken grief becomes a pressure, and eventually, something cracks.

Here’s what I want you to know: You don’t have to carry the silence alone.

Sharing your grief doesn’t mean shouting it from the rooftops. It doesn’t even mean telling everyone you know. Sometimes, it just means sitting with one person who understands—someone who can hold your story without judgment, without trying to fix you, and without needing you to “move on.”

Grief is heavy, but it becomes lighter when it’s shared.

If you’re not ready to share yet, that’s okay. Take your time. But when the silence starts to feel too heavy, know that you don’t have to face it alone. I’m here to listen—to sit with you in the quiet, to hold space for your pain, and to walk alongside you as you carry the weight of loss. Let’s start small. One conversation, one step at a time.