What Is Ambiguous Grief and How Do You Process It

Have you ever felt like you lost someone, but they are still alive? Maybe they have dementia, addiction, or mental illness. Maybe they moved away, cut off contact, or divorced you. Maybe they changed so much that they are not the same person you knew and loved.

If you have experienced any of these situations, you may be suffering from ambiguous grief.

Ambiguous grief is a type of grief that occurs when there is no clear or final loss. It can leave you feeling confused, angry, sad, or hopeless. You may also feel like your grief is not valid or recognized by others.

COVID with all of the limitations and guidelines created a lot of ambiguous grief for many people. Some couldn't be with their loved ones while they were in the hospital. Or, when they passed away. Funerals were limited in number. 

But you are not alone, and your grief is real. Ambiguous grief is a common and normal response to a complex and painful situation. There are ways to cope and heal from it, such as:

• Acknowledging your loss and your feelings--It's okay to feel what you feel. 
• Seeking support from people who understand--From people who understand is the most important part. 
• Taking care of yourself
• Adjusting your expectations and boundaries
• Practicing gentleness and kindness with yourself

Remember, you are not crazy, you are not weak, you are not alone. You are grieving an ambiguous loss, and you deserve compassion and support.